One day everything is as it always has been, and you truly believe all is fine and will continue that way. Nothing feels or seems out of the ordinary and you don’t see it coming in the slightest. Then, as fast as a blink everything changes and all you can do is stand idly by and watch your entire life flip upside down and sideways over and over again. No matter how hard you try or what you try there is nothing you can do, you are completely powerless over your own situation, and you feel angry at the helplessness. The truth is, you are helpless – to a point, but after that point you must choose to help yourself and take control of your life and how you CHOOSE to feel and what you CHOOSE to make of your situation whether you want to be there or not. You must wake up one day and tell yourself enough is enough and move forward. You must start making plans to get yourself back on track and to make your life better than it was before. It is a very hard thing to do, and there will many setbacks. You will lose your footing and fall backwards multiple times in the process. You will lose hope and give up even when you cannot afford to. You will spend countless nights crying yourself to sleep and trying to find anything to fill the painful void inside you only to realize only time can do that. Even if your situation were to go back to what it was, you are not the same and you never will be. Knowing that will cause serious pain, but it can be a place to draw strength from if you so choose. You can decide that the person you are now and the person you are striving to be is a better person than you were. No matter the outcome in the end you can decide to make yourself better and to learn to rely solely on yourself. You are strong and you can take on the world. You must believe in yourself and your ability to create your own destiny. You control your world and your happiness, never let anyone else do so.